The Defining Decade: Why Your Twenties Matter Part I

As you know I am a You Tube addict. There are so many awesome videos out there. Of course there are plenty of hilarious and super entertaining videos out there, but there are also so many super informative ones out there too. I came across a You Tuber named Alex Ikonn who has a lot of business and life tip videos. In one of his videos  he talked about a book called The Defining Decade: Why Your Twenties Matter -- And How to Make the Most of Them Now. I read some reviews on the book and decided to buy it. I am so happy with the purchase and can't rave more about this book. Even if you are just getting into your twenties, even if you are at the tail end of your twenties, even if you are not in your twenties, this book is a really good read.


I am going to be doing posts going over my thoughts and things I get from the book and how I feel it applies to me. Please let me know if you choose to buy this book and what you find and get out of it! And please recommend any other books you feel are worth adding to my shelves!

Part I

"I feel like I'm in the middle of the ocean. Like I could swim in any direction but I can't see land on any side, so I don't know which way to go."

This line from a client of the authors rather perfectly fits how I've felt since being married. Don't get me wrong, being married is lots of fun and has been an adventure all on it's own, but there is still that question of, what's next? For your average LDS member the church advises to not wait to have children, for any reason. So that would I guess be the next step. But money wise, that really isn't something that we are going to do and even if we were more financially comfortable I think having a child would not be wise by any means for us at this time. So again that asks the question, what's next? Do I go to school and further my education? But what in? I am fully aware that I am not alone by any means in feeling this way. Lots of people in their twenties bounce from major to major because let's be honest, deciding what you are going to do, for the rest of your life, is a big decision.

I'ts hard to say what I want to do. I've considered going to school to get some sort of marketing/business management degree that could be helpful to have with my photography business. Maybe even go into school for photography to help me get jobs with magazines and be a little more "validated" as a photographer. Or something totally different, maybe even go into elementary education.

I really truly believe that if you really want something to happen, you can make that happen, regardless of your age. It will take a lot of hard work, and maybe even a bit of luck, but I think that dream job you always wanted can be a reality if you really go for it. I also think we need to be open to different opportunities when they present themselves. Maybe we won't know what we are "meant to do" until the opportunity is in front of us. I've always pictured myself as a portrait photographer, but I'd be open to being really any type of photographer if that's what I was lead to, food, product, news photographer, ect.

Recently on the Framed Show (a show that features photographers) they had the adorable Angie Monson who shot our wedding photos. She talked about how when she was starting college everyone told her not to bother going to school for photography because she would never make any money in it so she went to school in psychology. She worked helping troubled teens for a while but was never in love with what she was doing. And she "took the leap" and found a way to be successful with it. The market in Utah is very saturated but with anything I think it's totally possible and I think it's better to have a little struggle to make it work, rather then just doing something that you hate.
(To watch the Framed show go here, you do have to create a log-in, but it's free!)

Part II

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